Comments on Coming Clean: Confessions of an Imperfect Parent: Cracking the Chore Code

Hi Melinda! I have to laugh! I haven't been ...

2011-01-03T23:16:35.260-05:00

Hi Melinda! I have to laugh! I haven't been as faithful to reading my favorite blogs (or to writing AT ALL!) the last several months! I remember us talking about chores last summer! So I was surprised at first to see you were writing about it again, but then...I still hadn't perfected my system either! I love these ideas:) I guess we're all works in progress!

Everything you had to share was informative and in...

2010-12-29T00:41:54.194-05:00

Everything you had to share was informative and interesting.
However, I have to say that I LOVE your blog design/layout. That little lady in the bath is adorable! Cutest blog design I have seen ever!

Do you think this system would work with husbands...

2010-12-26T18:17:34.149-05:00

Do you think this system would work with husbands?

Love this post, Melinda.

Let's talk soon.

Sweet dreams,
Deb

This sounds like the best idea ever! I don't h...

2010-12-23T13:20:47.248-05:00

This sounds like the best idea ever! I don't have any kids right now but I know that would have had me completing all my chores as a kid.

This is very helpful.. Thank you

2010-12-23T01:17:32.453-05:00

This is very helpful..

Thank you

ohh i am so gonna try some of these tips! so glad ...

2010-12-21T18:50:10.718-05:00

ohh i am so gonna try some of these tips! so glad it's working :)

Hmmmm, I've spotted that book a few times but ...

2010-12-21T09:47:41.719-05:00

Hmmmm, I've spotted that book a few times but not read it. Guess I will have to check it out to see if there are any good tips for all us granny nannies. Thanks for the heads up. :) AND MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! :) :) :)

That is so awesome! I love that this system makes ...

2010-12-20T08:34:27.411-05:00

That is so awesome! I love that this system makes them responsible for their behavior and doesn't make YOU the bad guy! Good thinkin'! :)

I was privileged to hear Dr. Leman when my daughte...

2010-12-19T21:55:18.262-05:00

I was privileged to hear Dr. Leman when my daughter was months old. She's 26. His wisdom help our parenting of her. Now her 2, 4 and 6 year olds have their own chores.

I love this strategy Melinda. I need to get my kid...

2010-12-19T13:52:28.876-05:00

I love this strategy Melinda. I need to get my kids started on some simple chores and eventually, I will be using this systme. Sounds like a win win to me :)

Thanks for the great ideas and book recommendations!

It does pay off in so many ways to expect them to ...

2010-12-18T02:02:44.267-05:00

It does pay off in so many ways to expect them to have responsibilities.

And it is wonderful that you are learning to allow consequences to follow. They are the best teacher and it does wonders for relationships.

Good Job!

P.S. Is the author Kevin Leman?

That sounds like a great system. I've only got...

2010-12-17T15:30:26.166-05:00

That sounds like a great system. I've only got the one kid. I wonder who I could make her compete with? My husband? Heaven help me!

Thanks for the common sense! This can even start ...

2010-12-17T14:07:50.807-05:00

Thanks for the common sense! This can even start to work without child #2 being older enough yet!

That's so funny because I keep telling my 14yo...

2010-12-17T11:59:35.401-05:00

That's so funny because I keep telling my 14yo that her college roommates won't want to live with her if she's a slob. :)

I try a lot of things to get chores done around here: asking, telling, bribing, begging, reminding, badgering, shaming, yelling... What really does work is just what you're doing: No chores, no privileges. Know chores, know privileges. End of story.

Love it! Yep I've always been a stickler for c...

2010-12-17T11:45:34.246-05:00

Love it! Yep I've always been a stickler for chores...It's the way I grew up and It's the way we raised our boys.

They had chores to do and that's all there was too it.

The best part is now that they are in college (One's on a mission) I love to hear how they like a clean apartment. They even go as far as complain about a room mate who may not have the same motivation to keep a clean place.

My second born was my worst slob. His room was a disaster and it was always a struggle to get him to keep it clean/picked up.

When he first left for college my husband and I paid him a visit and to my surprise his apartment was clean and his bed was made...made!

I told him how impressed I was with his living conditions and joked that he cleaned because he knew we were coming. But he reassured us he makes his bed everyday and he and his roomies keep a clean house!

Trust me what you are instilling in your children are life long habits. It does work!

sorry about the long comment!