If you were a fly on the wall at my house, you'd be sure to hear your share of fussing, complaining and whining. Maybe even a slammed door or two.

But enough about me.

In the pressure cooker that's parenting, I have exploded more than once. And it's harder to clean up than spaghetti night with a toddler.

So after years spent indulging in fruitless self-flogging, I finally let go of my obsession with getting it all 'just right.' I confess...I'm not a perfect parent.

Whew. That felt good.

Now, when my son saunters in with his 42nd tardy of the school year, I let it go. When I hear myself hollering "Whatever!" at my teenage daughter, I move on.

Having it all together is overrated anyway.

And I've determined not to waste God's grace. I'll never get it just right. You won't, either. So read on, sister. If you see a little of yourself in me, I hope it helps to know that you're not alone. Nope. If you're a mom, face it. You're never, ever alone.

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Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Tweet Me Tuesday: Twitter Turnoffs

Remember in high school when you saw a super cute guy that you wanted to get to know?

But then you spent a little time with him and he had a really big ego. He only talked about himself non-stop.


Or maybe you've had a friend who always asks for favors, but never acknowledges when you do something nice for her.


Guess what? Tweeters can easily get turned off, too. You want to not only attract followers, but keep them. Here's some common turnoffs that can cause tweeters to fly your coop:

1. Asking for retweets. Now occasionally this is fine. But making this request too often is annoying and comes off as self-serving. Here's the bottom line: Consistently deliver valuable content and people will retweet it. You won't have to beg.

2. Using profanity. This may bother some more than others. I won't unfollow someone for a foul word here and there. But if a tweeter regularly uses inappropriate language, it's a huge turnoff for me.

3. Posting too many statuses at once. It clogs up tweeters' stream. They want to hear from you, but in moderation. Space out your updates.

4. Overdoing the self-promotion. I've unfollowed a number of tweeters who seem to only promote their posts and rarely engage in conversation or promote others. Twitter is about conversation and community. No one is interested in being marketed to 24/7 on Twitter. It's kind of like getting those evening telemarketing calls.

5. Lack of acknowledgement. Tweeters earn big points with their followers when they thank them for retweets and Friday Follows. A little gratitude goes a long way.

6. Sharing too much. Personal tweets are great -- to a point. They help tweeters get to know you a little better and see your human side. But know where to draw the line.

Just some things to keep in mind as you build your following and reputation in Twitterland!

What are your Twitter turnoffs?

Okay, now on to Tweet Me Tuesday! It's as easy as 1, 2, 3, uhhh, 4...

1.) Tweet this post! Be sure to visit Kristen at MamaBytes, too! She is my wonderful co-host in this Blog Hop!

2.) Link up a post you’d like Tweeted using Linky Tools below. It can either be your most recent post or an older, favorite post you'd like to share with a new audience.

3.) Follow me and Kristen on Twitter! (if you’re not already)

4.) Visit the links below and Tweet as many posts as you'd like (linked below).

You can follow as many of these bloggers as you’d like on Twitter. (You can follow their blogs, too.)

When you Tweet a blogger’s post, it's nice to leave a comment telling them you tweeted it as part of Tweet Me Tuesday. Not required, but leaving comments is always good!

If you tweet at us/about us/for Tweet Me Tuesday please use the hashtag #TMT.
It makes it easier for us to find your tweets! Not sure about hashtags? See Kristen's post.

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Alright -- get to tweeting!



  1. Very good Twitter tips. My pet peeve is ones with inappropriate words or pix! Those usually get blocked ASAP. :)

  2. You are so right. I agree particularly with the one about begging for retweets. The thing is that many people who do this don't often care to RT for others. Shame, shame!!

    Great tips Melinda!!

  3. So, I'm pretty clueless about twitter, but this looked simple enough.

    Also, thanks for the tips...good for a newbie to know :)

    Thanks for hosting!

  4. I suppose I'd be classified as Twitter-phobic. I think it reminds me of a chat room in 1997. Not someplace I want to go back to.

  5. YAYYYY - 3rd time is the charm. Thank you so much for all your help!!! :) :) :)

  6. YAYYYY - 3rd time is the charm. Thank you so much for all your help!!! :) :) :)

  7. YAYYYY - 3rd time is the charm. Thank you so much for all your help!!! :) :) :)

  8. Great tips as usual! I haven't been able to participate in a while - I'm glad to be back! :)

  9. Oh my goodness! I typed the 3rd time comment - and left it updating as I ran out the door on errands with my granddaughter. When I came back, I discovered that, for some reason, it did it 3 times. I am sooooo sorry. I'm telling - tech-wise, this has not been my day! :) :) :) Praying yours is going MUCH better than mine. :) :) :)

  10. I don't like impersonal automatic direct messages whenever I follow someone. It's annoying. :-)

    Thanks for the tips!

  11. I really need to join in with this!

    The self-promotion drives me a little crazy- a little is fine. Twitter is good for that. But, if you are tweeting your post out 20x a day, it's a little much.


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