If you were a fly on the wall at my house, you'd be sure to hear your share of fussing, complaining and whining. Maybe even a slammed door or two.

But enough about me.

In the pressure cooker that's parenting, I have exploded more than once. And it's harder to clean up than spaghetti night with a toddler.

So after years spent indulging in fruitless self-flogging, I finally let go of my obsession with getting it all 'just right.' I confess...I'm not a perfect parent.

Whew. That felt good.

Now, when my son saunters in with his 42nd tardy of the school year, I let it go. When I hear myself hollering "Whatever!" at my teenage daughter, I move on.

Having it all together is overrated anyway.

And I've determined not to waste God's grace. I'll never get it just right. You won't, either. So read on, sister. If you see a little of yourself in me, I hope it helps to know that you're not alone. Nope. If you're a mom, face it. You're never, ever alone.

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Friday, September 17, 2010

Good Clean Fun: The Lazy Christian

I'm not sure how I found Rachel from The Lazy Christian. Maybe she found me. Either way, I'm so glad we connected!

Rachel is real. And that's the highest compliment I can pay a blogger. She's a godly girl, but she doesn't come off holier-than-thou. Like all of us, she sometimes has more questions than answers.

I think you'll love her as much as I do. So, without further ado, I give you Rachel...

I don’t like reading a lot of Christian self-help stuff. They make me feel really, really bad. Yes, I’m a lousy Christian. Yes, I know I should do better. Yes, Jesus is coming so I’d better get a move on.

Not. Helpful.

Some blogs make you think, “Wow! So I need to move to a foreign country and spread the Gospel!” Or, “I’m giving myself two weeks to read the Bible cover to cover!” Maybe you should. Maybe you’re the type of person who would benefit from that advice. If so, then there it was. Do those things. Tell God I gave you the hint you needed. He’ll be glad I did something.

However, many people aren’t called to go to a foreign country, and, personally, my head would explode if I attempted to read the Bible in two weeks. Give me two years, maybe. I need a plan, but it needs to be manageable. Something I can handle and stick with. Something that will help me grow in my faith to the point where I don’t need a schedule or a plan anymore—I just do the Christiany things that I’m supposed to be doing.

First, I need to make a confession:

I am lazy.

There. I said it. I admit it. And I’m not talking just laziness in my faith. No, I’m all kinds of lazy. I’m sure we all have days like that, but for me, it’s a lifestyle. In fact, it’s amazing this article is even written. I want to play video games on the computer or watch movies instead of doing awful things like chores. I am the greatest dawdler who ever lived. I’ve found ways to waste time that others only dream of. I am seriously lazy.

I don’t particularly want to be classified as such. Part of me is even embarrassed to put it in writing. I want to be a go-getter! I want ambition! I’d even take the busy life of a soccer mom over being lazy. The trouble is that I don't know how to get out of this rut or even where to start.

The same happens with my faith. I want to be a prayer warrior. I want to be all fiery for God! I want to quote Scripture and know where stuff is in the Bible! I’ve even thought, “Hey, I could go to seminary or get a master’s in something religious, and then I’ll know everything and be done!”

Apparently, it doesn’t work that way. Faith is about having a relationship with God. While being able to find certain Scriptures is helpful, they’re only helpful if you’ve got God’s guidance on how to apply them to your life. There’s not really a short cut.

Now this part is tough. I hate to be the one to tell you this—it was a shock to me, too—but being lazy is actually selfishness in disguise. We’re lazy when we think what we want to do is more important than what anyone else wants us to do. When it comes to faith, that means we think what we want to do is more important than what God wants us to do.

The Bible is full of things we’re supposed to be doing: praying, studying and understanding his Word, praising, working to provide for our families, being kind, doing the “good works” he’s prepared for us to do, leading others to Christ, etc. The list is a mile long. We don’t really have time to sit on our fannies and not do it, especially since we don’t know exactly how long we have to get all these things done.

Here’s another hard truth: God doesn’t like laziness. It’s all over the Bible. Almost every other Proverb is about how awful lazy people are. And, although we’re saved by grace and not by works, the New Testament makes it clear that we’re supposed to be doing good for God because we’ve been saved. We need to be an example to others of how Christians should be—how Jesus was. It’s a lot to live up to.

That being said, I really need to change what I’m doing. Now, I’m no theologian. I’m not someone who’s got it all together all the time, but we all need a starting place, right? My husband likes to quote James 4:8, which says that God will draw near to those who draw near to him. I need to make an effort. I need to show God that we’re ready to make a change and that we want a better relationship with him. That’s when we’ll start to feel a change in our hearts and our minds. That’s when the laziness will be replaced by a fire for God.

I don’t want my blog to just spout advice. Sometimes I feel like people tell me what I should do when they’ve never felt the way I have or have never struggled with the issues I do. Not so here. As the title would indicate, I’m lazy, and if I talk about something you should try, that means I’ve tried it. It’s given me a starting place for putting my faith on the right track. Should I get off track at any point—and chances are I will—I always have a method for beginning again.

I really hope you find this helpful. I have. And I hope this helps you find new ways to ditch your laziness and be an active Christ follower. Because he wants to spend time with us, you know. Even though we’re lazy.

Doesn't she make you want to read more? Please go visit Rachel and give her some comment love!


  1. Ouch!
    Gonna be pondering this one today...

  2. I'm not lazy, but boy am I good at making excuses. If I converted half of the mental energy I use on creating excuses to faith, I'd be one admirable Christian.

    We all have those stumbling blocks.

  3. Visited (and loved) her! Thanks Melinda!

  4. This one really hit home. Good post.

  5. She does make me wanna read more! Thanks for introducing her to us.

  6. Melinda, what a great post. Thank you for introducing her! I'm gonna' check her out. My hand is raised for the "lazy" department. Sigh.....Have a great weekend!

  7. Wow, this is incredibly well written. I appreciate the wake-up call. Now it is a matter of putting the intentions into action.


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