If you were a fly on the wall at my house, you'd be sure to hear your share of fussing, complaining and whining. Maybe even a slammed door or two.

But enough about me.

In the pressure cooker that's parenting, I have exploded more than once. And it's harder to clean up than spaghetti night with a toddler.

So after years spent indulging in fruitless self-flogging, I finally let go of my obsession with getting it all 'just right.' I confess...I'm not a perfect parent.

Whew. That felt good.

Now, when my son saunters in with his 42nd tardy of the school year, I let it go. When I hear myself hollering "Whatever!" at my teenage daughter, I move on.

Having it all together is overrated anyway.

And I've determined not to waste God's grace. I'll never get it just right. You won't, either. So read on, sister. If you see a little of yourself in me, I hope it helps to know that you're not alone. Nope. If you're a mom, face it. You're never, ever alone.

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Monday, May 17, 2010

5 Ways My Teen Girl Has Saved Me

Teens – especially girls – can get a bad rap.

The stereotype of difficult, demanding, moody, rebellious divas can be a tough one to shake.

So, I’m here to help repair their reputation – starting with five things my teen girl has saved me from:

1. Ambush by TLC’s What Not to Wear. My outfits are often evaluated for fashion sense and age-appropriateness. She informs me when certain outfits and hairstyles make me look “old” or “uncool.” My personal favorite is when she told me a particular ensemble made me look like “the 80’s threw up on me.” Nope, this mama will never walk out the door looking like a geeky, fashion faux pas. It’s a little like living with Clinton and Stacy except she hasn’t subjected me to the dreaded 360-degree mirror – yet.

2. The love of money. You know how “the love of money is the root of all evil”? When you have a teenage girl, money doesn't stay in your hands long enough for you to become attached to it. The owners of some of her favorite stores, like Hollister and American Eagle, may find plenty of evil lurking at their door, but I'm safe. Whew. What a relief.

3. Too much sleep. Have you found that too much sleep makes you lethargic? Well, you’re a parent. Of course you haven’t. Let’s just say that you’ve probably heard that too much sleep can make you lethargic. Saved again! All that worrying about the present and the future makes that unlikely. And, since she’s 13, I’m just getting started!

4. The need to answer the phone. I used to hear the phone ringing and assume it was for me. No more. My very popular and outgoing daughter has corralled all the social energy in our house. So while that phone is ringing off the hook, I can just kick back in my recliner and relax.

5. A shortage of cosmetic and grooming products. An early morning discovery that I had run out of mousse or hairspray used to send me into a panic. Now a quick trip across the house leads me to a veritable treasure trove of haircare and personal care goodies. As an added bonus, this also contributes to saving me from #2.

See? Teenage girls are performing wonderful acts of charity for their parents all the time.

However, this discussion wouldn’t complete without saying that my teen girl, Molly -- from the moment she was born -- has also challenged and inspired me to be a more giving, less judgmental, more compassionate, less controlling and godlier woman.

From the moment you were born, sweet Molly, God has been using you to save me from myself.

I love you deeply (and yes, I really did mean to say sweet.)

This post is linked up at Unexpected Bliss Monday Motivation. To link up your post, click here.
Melinda

10 comments:

  1. Lovely cute funny post. So having a teenage daughter has it's upside, huh?? OK, I am sooo relieved! Mine is 5 going on 15 so, you know, it;s just aorund the corner for me.

    Hey and the kids photo meme is up and running if molly wants to join in?
    xx

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  2. Lol, those things are true even for teenage boys. My son once told me I was "rocking the hobo look" with my winter sweatshirt and jeans wardrobe - so helpful of him :)

    Gotta love 'em.

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  3. Great blog! I must admit, also, gone are the days that the ringing phone would actually be for me. Now, I just sit back, relax, and enjoy not having to rush to pick up the phone.

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  4. No girls here, so I might be in trouble. LOL

    Though, if my boys take after my husband, I'll probably still be safe from all these things!

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  5. Try having two teenage girls at once. Then you'll start looking into whether it's advantageous to start buying stock in Aeropostale since your girls are responsible for keeping the store open. You won't be kept up late worrying about them...no, around 9:30 PM or later, even though they've been with you most of the day, they will suddenly be inspired to have a heart-to-heart talk with you right when you're ready to pass out (and they should be in bed, too). And you won't find any beauty products around the house, because, between the two teenagers, they will be used up so fast that fights will ensue over who was the person who used the last of X at least six times a day.

    Even better is having two teenage girls with a seven-year-old sister who wants to be just like them and steals their clothes, grooming products, and any remaining pocket change left for Hello Kitty toys.

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  6. Aww! I bet your daughter is glowing after reading this! :)

    As a side note, maybe you should invest in some stock at Hollister... ;)

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  7. Ha,ha, I totally remember! Aren't they great! I did like the stash of makeup tho'. Great post, loved it.

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  8. Ugh. Are Hollister and Aeropostale requirements? I'm so not looking forward to that! So far, my little girl is perfectly content with her pink dresses, tiaras, and pink feather boas. :)

    I do look forward to not having to answer the phone. I get so tired of dealing with telemarketers.

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  9. What a GREAT blog! I'm adding it to my favorites right now! ♥ Michelle

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  10. I can't help but smile over your post, It's nice that you maintain positive attitude on parenting teens. I have yet to try this a few years from now. I just hope I can have your positivity when that happens. :)

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