If you were a fly on the wall at my house, you'd be sure to hear your share of fussing, complaining and whining. Maybe even a slammed door or two.

But enough about me.

In the pressure cooker that's parenting, I have exploded more than once. And it's harder to clean up than spaghetti night with a toddler.

So after years spent indulging in fruitless self-flogging, I finally let go of my obsession with getting it all 'just right.' I confess...I'm not a perfect parent.

Whew. That felt good.

Now, when my son saunters in with his 42nd tardy of the school year, I let it go. When I hear myself hollering "Whatever!" at my teenage daughter, I move on.

Having it all together is overrated anyway.

And I've determined not to waste God's grace. I'll never get it just right. You won't, either. So read on, sister. If you see a little of yourself in me, I hope it helps to know that you're not alone. Nope. If you're a mom, face it. You're never, ever alone.

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Thursday, October 15, 2009

Pardon the Interruption

I’m not in the habit of meeting men for lunch who are not my husband.

Especially a table full of them. Mercy.

But I knew opportunities like this didn’t come along every day.

Plus, they were really cute.

Now before you start thinking, “Melinda, maybe you’re taking this whole ‘confessions’ thing a bit too far,” let me explain.

My son Micah had forgotten his lunch. Knee-deep in laundry, deadlines and other deadly serious tasks, I intended to put it in his hot little hands and hot foot it out the door.

And I almost made it.

Just as I was walking away, Micah shouted: “Mom, wait!”

“They want to know if you’ll eat lunch with us,” he said giggling, pointing to a group of boys wearing goofy grins.

My mind called up my lengthy undone to-do list.

I quickly added “Eat Lunch with Adorable Nine-Year-Old Boys” to the top of it.

One of the boys ran and brought me a chair and I was soon caught up talking baseball, Halloween costumes and favorite lunch items. (The winner? Wacky Fortunes Rollups, hands down.)

It was the best 30 minutes of my entire week.

I’ve found that some of my sweetest, most memorable parenting moments are the ones I haven’t planned – the detours I’ve been wise enough to take in the midst of life’s busyness.

A friend of mine calls it “being interruptible.” Task-oriented, perfectionist types like me loathe interruptions. Checking off the items on my to-do list is a sacred ritual that makes me downright giddy.

But what if the most important thing “to do” is not on my agenda?

Sometimes you have to just stop and smell the rollups.
Melinda

18 comments:

  1. I love it. I want to be interruptible too. Thanks for the reminder.

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  2. Bet your son will remember that for a long time!

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  3. Don't forget to do this with your parents too. My mother (80)who has lost her mate of 49 years, loves it when my son and I (or me) visits her unexpectedly in the middle of the day. She gets so lonely and is not able to navigate like we are. Some days when we need a break from cleaning etc. we go to play cards with her. When my some was younger I would sometimes take him his favorite "taco bell" as a surprise instead of the lunch I'd packed for the day. Enjoy the unexpected moments and don't let them slip away:)

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  4. This is exactly what I have been trying to do this week. Slow down and spend quality time with my children, and specially in my quiet time with God. No matter if the kitchen sink is full of dishes, not matter is the washer is leaking water, from who knows where. We need to enjoy it and not worry about the rest.

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  5. Smell the rollups. Should be a book title. uh hummmm...hint....

    Good for you to stop and eat. Memories for you and him.

    Blessings

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  6. Some of the BEST moments in parenting are the unexpected ones -- what blessings!
    Loved your post!

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  7. Happy Sits sharefest! I love your blog header very cute!!!

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  8. How sweet! THank sounds like so much fun:) Your blog is adorable!!

    Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest

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  9. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog--I am glad you did because I got to come over here and visit! I have really enjoyed the few minutes I got to look around.

    I love the idea behind your blog, I have spent way too much time trying to LOOK perfect despite the fact that I am so very flawed. I read a blog just this week about being willing to be weak because that is when God works the most!

    You did the best thing by stopping and spending those moments with your son! I know how hard it can be (and I am not even a to do list kind of girl) to alter your schedule, but that memory will be priceless!

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  10. This is probably my favorite of your posts that I've read so far. How sweet, not only that you were willing to stay and sit with him, but that he and his friends wanted you to! Keep enjoying those little moments. :)

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  11. Oh this was great! First that you son wanted you to eat lunch with him. Then that his friends did too! Speaks a lot for you-which probable explains your profile (too funny). Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post! Judy

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  12. Wow - you're a great Mom! I bet your 9yo was beaming with joy!

    I love being interrupted by my crumbcatchers. Having 2 kids in college, 1 in HS, and 1 3rd grader - I love it when they want me around...

    Have a great week!

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  13. FUN! what a great lunch date :) thanks for sharing!

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  14. You were so wise to drop everything and join them!

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  15. Awesome post Melinda! what else is to be expected from you? I hope you are well. It doesn't necessarily matter if everyone else gets my email address but please send me yours I had to close my other account!

    candacejcs@gmail.com

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  16. Sounds like you all had fun! Love your header.
    Visiting from SITS

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  17. Some of the best mommy moments are the ones that are NOT planned!

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