If you were a fly on the wall at my house, you'd be sure to hear your share of fussing, complaining and whining. Maybe even a slammed door or two.

But enough about me.

In the pressure cooker that's parenting, I have exploded more than once. And it's harder to clean up than spaghetti night with a toddler.

So after years spent indulging in fruitless self-flogging, I finally let go of my obsession with getting it all 'just right.' I confess...I'm not a perfect parent.

Whew. That felt good.

Now, when my son saunters in with his 42nd tardy of the school year, I let it go. When I hear myself hollering "Whatever!" at my teenage daughter, I move on.

Having it all together is overrated anyway.

And I've determined not to waste God's grace. I'll never get it just right. You won't, either. So read on, sister. If you see a little of yourself in me, I hope it helps to know that you're not alone. Nope. If you're a mom, face it. You're never, ever alone.

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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Leaping Lizards! I think they've got it!

Want to have an interesting week? Looking for a little excitement?

I've got a few suggestions:

1.) Volunteer at your church’s Vacation Bible School program “Rome: Paul and the Underground Church.”

2.) Enclose 120 summer-crazed children in a single large room.

3.) Try to teach them something.

4.) Agree to be the small group leader for the fifth graders. Hope that most of them are boys. (I’m running a little low on middle school drama in my house right now, so this is PERFECT!)

5.) Turn your group loose outside for some recreation. Watch as they catch lizards, pry open their mouths and sink their little amphibian teeth into their earlobes for lizard earrings! All the cool kids are doing it.

6.) Give them sashes (in keeping with the ancient Rome theme). This week, I’ve learned that these make great headbands, slings and bandages. You can even tie your feet together and hop around bumping into people! They’re great for ill-timed games of tug-of-war! And, if you really get bored, make one into a straightjacket contraption and pretend like you’re choking yourself! Big fun!

7.) Put a bowl of grapes and trail mix in the middle of the floor. Ask your group if they’re ready for a snack.

8.) Try to lead your group in meaningful discussion with 110 other kids closeby.

I promise you. You will not be bored.

I knew my rowdy crew was having fun. But with all the horsing around and distractions, I wasn’t convinced that a whole heck of a lot was sinking in.

Then, one of the coordinators suggested that I move my spirited group to a quieter corner. When I did, an amazing thing happened. They gave great feedback. They shared their thoughts. They asked thought-provoking questions.

Hmmm… maybe they “got” more than I thought.

I find it’s like that with my kids, too. I’ll teach, instruct, discipline. And, at times, they appear oblivious. They’re distracted. Hyper. Bored. Defiant.

But every now and then, usually in a quiet moment, they throw me a bone. They give me a glimmer (sometimes more!) that all of my efforts have not been for nothing. And the words I’ve spoken come back to me – out of their mouths. Amazing.

So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Galatians 6:9 (New Living Translation)
Melinda

7 comments:

  1. Melinda, mine are grown, and it's amazing the things they remember. Some things that I'd rather them not, but never give up teaching. Well, done with the VBS.

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  2. Hi,

    Way to hang with it!

    Maybe your next post should be entitled "VBS:Survivor."

    Who knows? Someone may make a reality show out of it.

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  3. Keep up the good work girl.
    VBS I am doing it also.
    Today I was Mary(not Jesus' mother) and I got to tell the GOOD NEWS>. He's Alive...I told it four different times. I hope someone got it. Good post and yes they do remember.

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  4. This was hilarious! I am not very good at accesorizing so maybe I should look for a pair of lizard earrings - I suppose they would go with anything really!

    I am doing VBS next week, but I don't have the courage to the 5th or 6th graders. I will have to stick with what I know - KINDERGARTEN, I'm sure it will be enlightening to all of us.

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  5. Luv your blog! I appreciate this post so much! My girls will be 4 and 2 this summer and I'm really bad about the self-flogging. Fantastic!

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  6. wow cool! I love your blog & am following it now! xoxo

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  7. So glad you guys found me, Debbie and Gypsy Fox!

    We moms have to stick together ... parenting is too brutal to do it alone! ;0)

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